There are many who just chicken out when it comes to steady relationships. Why so? Everyone’s opinion differs. Then what do these people do? Simply not date anyone just because they freak out at situations? At some point you will have to settle down and agree to have a commitment, but until then what? How about a temporary solution to this problem? You just need to have someone, a friend, who is ready to offer you everything other than a commitment for the moment. Now you may be wondering that things will go bad and messy in the future and you will end up losing a friend. But you can avoid all this drama by following certain rules.

When you plan a friends with benefits situation, you should go out with men whom you usually do not date. All you have to do is pick a friend who are not interested in dating, ever, but he should be a trusted soul. The reason for this strategy is that the chance for you to fall for him are less. Now once you get that trustful friend, start with the rule book. Make sure you are all clear with the rules, like no emotional attachment, no crying, no getting possessive and all. Once the rules are clear on both the ends, it is likely that you both will not fall for each other.

But you must be wondering that when there is some sort of intimacy, it is obvious that there will be emotions playing around. In case, the emotional meter hits the highest just stop sleeping together or immediately start to lower your expectations. This way you will avoid things getting weirder and messy. Remember this, that the person you are sleeping is your friend. He or she will never judge you. So get set and experiment all that you want. But always ask if the next person is okay with what you do. You are just friends with benefits. You are not in a living relationships. Do not start with the morning kisses or any cute and sweet gestures. This will only complicate things for you in the future.

Psychologists say that you are more likely to develop an emotional bond after three months of sex. So to avoid the whole emotional drama what you can do is simply stop seeing each other after three months. But also note that this theory differs from person to person. But just make sure you start seeing other people or get involved in some fun activity if you see you friend with benefits other than usual. Keep chanting this mantra ‘he or she is just a friend!’ This will remind you that you two are just friends and nothing more. This mantra will try to keep of the jealousy that you may develop later.

And lastly, never get carried away! Just because he left his work or canceled his date for you doesn’t mean that he is falling for you. Remember, that in the very first place you choose to be friends with benefits with him is because you did not love him.