Lets face it, all the single ones out there want to show to the world that they are available. But the biggest mistake what all the available singles do is that they unknowingly show that just as much they available, they are desperate as well. Hitting the early 20’s no one really wants to stay single. It is this time of your life that you start thinking that everyone around you is either getting married or getting engaged or is in a relationship, while you find yourself wondering if you will ever find the one. You get torn between trusting God to bring you the right one and working it in the world of love and dating. So how to be available and not desperate?
The only way to avoid looking desperate is to stop believing that you are, because a person will appear as desperate as they feel. The more fixated you are on finding love and obsessed about entering marriage, the more desperate you will appear, because eventually, the things that you think about most start seeping into every part of your life for the whole world to see.
For such situations what you can do is, stop being scared or fearful of things. When you are driven by fear, you live a desperate life. The fear of isolation will make you a control freak. You will then end up taking control of everything and everyone in your life. This fear of isolation will also make some really bad and harmful choices for you. And you will end up taking control of everything and everyone in your life. What you can do is turn your fear into trust. Trust in God, trust in yourself that good things will happen to you. Bear this in mind that it’s all about being in the right place and at the right time.
To find a great match for yourself is get out and do what you love the most. Get yourself indulged into activities that actually and truly make you happy. This way you will find people who could connect with your heart. It is rightly said that the best of relationships are made up of two people with similar passions and shared interests.
Many youngsters are terrified of socializing. They find hard talking to the opposite sex. Afraid of risking a broken heart, or looking inappropriate to the innocent passerby, it’s easy to avoid friendships that could very well be the foundation of finding a future mate. Just get into the habit of making friends. Whether or not these friendships lead to marriage is a long way to see, but they can lead to encouragement, sharpening, and an all-around broadening of horizons.
It is okay to say that you are single. In fact you should spread the word of you being single. Don’t hide from the fact that you are not in a relationship, embrace it. There will be a time and place to give your life to another, but until then, focus on giving your life to the world around you. This single time is the time of growth, maturity, and learning about yourself- things are easy to miss out on when you are focused on finding the one.
Just remember that love happens when you are least expecting it and exactly at the time when you need it the most.