Raising a teenager is tough. They are geared up with hormonal changes and this is the time they need you more. They are full of drama. They tend to explode any time. Their tantrums, rebellion, and sometimes, the isolation doesnt come with any warning. Here are some easy ways and tips to raise your teen. All the best in making this teenager roller-coaster ride an enjoyable one.

1. Selective Independence:

Teens love being free. It simply means that they get to choose within some amount of basic framework laid by the parent. For example, we have a rule that there will always be a sport in their lives but they get to choose which one. Never through off your teens in dungeons or give them complete freedom.

2. Leave notes:

This doesn’t mean that you leave a note in the lunch box saying love mum. Teens do not like all this. A simple not like ‘Dude, sixth grade is tough but doable. You know where to head when and if trouble finds you.’ Something that they can easily connect themselves with.

3. Acknowledge and empathize, but do not dismiss or advise:

As a parent we may get the feeling that it is our responsibility to give them advice not only when the occasion arises but also whenever possible. Never do this! Teens hate being told ever now and then. This habit of yours will be difficult to get rid off, but try resisting it. Every time telling them what to do and what not to do gives them the feeling that they are incapable of working out a solution.

4. Delegate, value, and discuss:

Always appreciate their work. Saying ‘good job’ will do no good. Maybe something like ‘I truly appreciate your help in the craft session today. You were very patient with the younger lot.’ The idea is to be specific and to acknowledge the good things much more than the undesirable.

5. Give varied experiences:

Help them to understand themselves. Motivate them to do things for mere happiness and pleasure of experiencing something new. Not everything is supposed to have academic relevance – some just build character, and moments.

6. The ‘You and I’ journal:

There will be number of times when it will be absolutely impossible for you two to maintain an eye contact. That is when the journal comes in handy. Start writing about the actions, words, apologies, love, and other topics. Written dialogues will open a stronger communication channel for you than the eye-rolling, shrugging, and high-pitched arguments that some situations warrant.

All you have to do is stay connected, to keep up with the changes, and most importantly to maintain a state of peace.