Love life can be bumpy at times. During such times you must stay cool and handle it well without any frustration or irritation. Every couple goes through those bumpy rides. Every relationship has its ups and downs. The only difference is that what we call the ‘best couple’ or ‘happily ever after couple’ have learned how to manage the bumps and keep their love life going. They hang in there, tackle problems, and learn how to work through the complex issues of everyday life. Many couples who go through relationship troubles clear their mistakes by reading self-help books and articles, attending seminars, going to counseling, observing other successful couples, or simply using trial and error. Here we are to help you understand what exactly goes wrong in relationship and seven different ways to save relationship.
If observed well, all the relationship problems start with poor communication. In this digital world we are busy with our blackberry, TV, or laptops so when and how do we get the time to communicate to another human begin. What you can do is start making appointments with each other. If you live together, put the cell phones on vibrate, put the kids to bed, and let voice-mail pick up your calls. If you can’t “communicate” without raising your voices, go to a public spot like the library, park, or restaurant. This way you will be embarrassed if anyone sees you screaming. Do not interrupt your partner while he or she is speaking. Let them complete first and then you speak. Use body language to show you’re listening. Don’t doodle, look at your watch, or pick at your nails. Nod so the other person knows you’re getting the message, and rephrase if you need to.
Mary Jo Fay, author of Please Dear, Not Tonight, says a lack of sexual self-awareness and education worsens problems. Even partners who love each other could be mismatched sexually. But having sex is one of the last things you should give up. Learn what truly turns you and your partner on by each of you coming up with a personal ‘sexy list.’ Use it to create more scenarios that turn you both on. Ask friends or family to take the kids every other Friday night for a sleepover. When sex is on the calendar, it increases your anticipation. Changing things up a bit can make sex more fun, too.
When it comes to money, be open about it. Just be honest and come clean with all the income and debts. If the financial climate is not pretty then take it out in a calmer way rather than taking it in a hurricane way. If it is okay with both create a joint account and divide the monthly bills.
Most partners work outside the home and often at more than one job. So it’s important to fairly divide the chores at home. Share all the household chores. If both of you do not like the household chores look for a maid or cleaning service. If you want to keep your love life going, making your relationship a focal point should not end when you say “I do.” Do the things you used to do when you were first dating like show appreciation, compliment each other, contact each other through the day, and show interest in each others life.