Raising kids is one of the toughest. But it is also one of the most fulfilling ones in the world. And chances are that you might feel the least prepared for it.
So here are three child-rearing tips to help you feel more fulfilled as a parent
1. Boosting Your Child’s Self-Esteem
As babies when kids see themselves through their parents’ eyes, kids start developing their sense of self. your kids absorb your body language, your tone of voice, and your every expression. Your actions and words as a parent affect their developing self-esteem the most.
Praising accomplishments, however small, makes them feel proud. Letting them do things independently makes them feel strong and capable. On the other hand, comparing a child unfavorably with another or making belittling comments makes them feel worthless.
Avoid using words as weapons or making loaded statements. Comments like “What a stupid thing to do!” or “You act more like a baby than your little brother!” cause damage just as bad as physical blows do.
Be compassionate and choose your words carefully. Let your kids know that everyone makes mistakes and that you still love them, even when you don’t like their behavior.
2. Catch Kids Being Good
Ever thought about how many times you react negatively to your kids? You may find that you criticize far more often than you compliment. How would you feel about a boss who treated you with that much negative guidance, even if it was well-intended?
A better approach is to catch them doing something right: “I was watching you play with your sister and you were very patient.” or “You made your bed without being asked — that’s terrific!” These statements, instead of repeated scoldings, will do more to encourage good behavior over the long run.
3. Be Consistent With Your Discipline And Set Limits
Discipline is required in every household. The goal of discipline is to help kids learn self-control and choose acceptable behaviors. They may test the established limits, but they need those limits to grow into responsible adults.
Establishing house rules helps kids not only understand your expectations but also develop self-control. Some rules might include: No hurtful teasing no hitting, name-calling allowed and no TV until homework is done.
But, make a point of finding something to praise every day. Be generous with rewards — your compliments, love, and hugs, can work wonders and are often a reward enough.